The Next Step & A Few Thank Yous
Happy Tuesday all! I know I left you hanging yesterday, so I'll just get right to the rest of this little story of mine. So where are we moving to? Right now? You ready for this one? It's a bit of a long one, but I promise it's a good one.
This week and weekend (officially March 31st), we'll be moving into my parent's home. I know, I know, but just hear me out.
This is a post I've been struggling to write for a while now simply because I didn't know what this step meant for me and what it said about the place I am in my life right now. I'm not going to lie, I asked myself many times through this decision process if this was a step backward. I know young people move back in with their parents often for various reasons, but to be completely honest, it was never something I envisioned myself doing. I've been living on my own since college, and I've loved every minute of it. Granted, the hard times came. There were months when I didn't know how I would get by; how I'd pay the rent, the cable, the sky high $300 heating bill that an old Victorian home and a New England winter brought; how I'd pay off my monthly school loans and manage to put food in the fridge and have a beer or two on weekends with friends and buy gas for that little old car of mine. It was tough at times, but I loved being independent. Every bit of it. And those years of uncertainty made me stronger and more appreciative of everything around me. I wouldn't trade "my broke 20s" for anything. Heck, I'm still in them.
But when the time came for Hobson and I to decide what to do, we knew one thing. We had to be smart. We have so many big beautiful plans for our future, ones that I'm super excited to share on here when the time is right, but the only way these can happen is by taking the logical path, saving a bit of money and planning our next move in a timely fashion.
Through this process of deciding what was the best place for us to be right now, I've learned that you can't spend your life dreaming of being someplace else. You have to make it happen. That initial struggle I had of figuring out what this move said about me and what this step meant for us has disappeared. I've realized that in order to get to that place we dream of being, this move was a crucial one. A sort of preparation stage for what is to come next. We all go through stages in life, and I've loved this stage. But the past few months, we could both feel we wanted more, and we knew it was time to go get that "more." But we're not just slamming the door shut. To do it right, we have to go through this transition period, and that meant us moving in with my parents. This is the right thing to do. It not only makes the most sense, financially and in other ways, but it is also the bridge we have to cross in order to get to that place we want to be.
I may be making this out to be a time I'm dreading, but it's the complete opposite. My parents rock. They're the cool kids. I love them more than anything, and I'm very much looking forward to a great summer. This is going to be a fun time for all four of us, one of lots of laughs, good meals, glasses of wine, and a full house once again.
Through this time of change for us, I've realized just how lucky I am for the awesome people I have in my life. So a couple thank you's are also in order. One, to both my parents, for not only taking us in, but also for allowing me to spread my wings these past few years. Financially, It may not have made sense... a woman in her young 20s and fresh out of college, moving into her own place just a short distance from you guys. But you both made me feel like I could do it. By not living at home, by having to financially support myself, I feel I've grown up faster and stronger. I feel, even at 23, I've already discovered who I am, what I want from life, how difficult it can be to go out and get it, and what must be done to do so. Had I not moved out so soon, I don't think I would be the same person I am today. Let me tell you, paying bills whose sum is equal to and sometimes more than your entire income is a quick reality check and one that I am proud to say I overcame.
A second thank you to Hobson, for the best year yet in our first home together and for understanding my dreams and allowing me to chase them in the coming months. The best is yet to come.
Third, to you guys, my wonderful readers, for reading my stories, no matter how long and wordy and sometimes mushy they get, and for your kind words. I owe you guys so much for showing up to this little space of mine, and I'm honored to have y'all.
So that is our plan and where we are headed at the moment! The plan is to be at my parents through the summer and then take the next step. It's a bigger one, one I have been dreaming about for a while now, and one I am bursting at the seams to share.... but one step at a time.
( photo; type by myself )