Lessons Learned Lately

AllIn02 Why hello there! I feel like I've been pretty absent from this space the past week or two. Trust me, I've missed it, but there is good reason. I promise. I've been super busy with a new project of mine, but I'm happy to announce that the reveal is right around the corner, and boy, am I looking forward to it. I've been working on this for a while now and cannot wait to share with you all. The finish line is finally in sight. Mark your calendars to stop by here on May 6th. You won't regret it! Promise.

Alright friends, now for a little honesty, if you will... Over the past couple of months, between working on this secret of mine, moving and resettling, adopting Zooey, and lots of other work, I feel like there is always something that needs to get done. My to-do list is never complete. My mind is going a million miles a minute, and over the past week or so, I was starting to feel it taking its toll on my body. Although this feeling isn't new for me, right now, I'm beginning to learn a lesson from the buzzing non-stop of it all. I'm realizing, for the sake of my own well-being, how much I need to just slow down, take a deep breath every now and then, and most importantly, learn to say no. Learn to say no. That right there is the hardest one for me.

Admittedly, I'm a bit of a perfectionist, thanks to that dear dad of mine. It's a quality I'm learning to juggle. I've always had this constant desire to please everyone in my life... family, friend, coworker or client. This isn't necessarily a bad thing, but I'm realizing that there comes a point when saying no is more honorable and respectful to other's and to yourself than taking on just one more task or saying yes to that lunch invite.

I tend to overbook myself, I guess you could say. I think I can take on a million things in one day and still feel somewhat sane and relaxed at the end of it all. Truth is, I love being busy. But there's a certain point of too busy, too many commitments, socially and professionally. Lately, I'd reached that point.

How is it possible to say yes to every social invite, finish the work required of you, enjoy that latte and quiet time at a coffee shop, play with your dog, do the laundry, make a healthy meal (or three), sleep whatever the recommended hours, keep a clean house, pay the bills and still delve into your passions? I tell ya, it's just not all possible. Somewhere along the lines, someone has to hear a no from you. As much as we may want to, we can't take on the whole world on our own.

Learning to say no is a tough thing for me. Truthfully, I feel like I'm letting people down when that word comes out of my mouth. I hate that feeling, but my life requires it. Blogging and my lack of posts lately is a prime example. Sometimes I get so caught up in this world of blogging that I feel bad for not posting on a regular basis. I want more than anything to have posts going up as often as I can simply because I enjoy blogging so much and I hate to let my readers down. But here's the thing, if I can't do it to the best of my ability, I hate to do it at all. And that's where the above quote comes in. By saying yes every single time, I take the chance of never pleasing anyone. Because to juggle it all, nothing gets my full attention, and my best work may never come.

So, friends, here's to saying no when the time requires it and learning that quality beats quantity, in just about every aspect of life. Have a beautiful Wednesday!

( photo, type by myself )